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My Writing Process – World Wide Blog Tour

Maggie Thom, an incredible author whom I met through WordPress, nominated me for this World Wide Blog Tour.  I’m not great at following directions but here goes!

First I’ll tell you a little bit about Maggie.
“Award winning author, Maggie Thom, took the challenge and leapt off, leaving a fulltime, twenty year career in management, to write full-time. After publishing her first suspense/thriller book Captured Lies, October 2012, she published her second novel, Tainted Waters, April, 2013. Tainted Waters went on to win 2013 Suspense and Thriller Book of the Year through Turning the Pages Magazine. She is excited to publish her third novel, Deceitful Truths, March 2014.” (About Me, Maggie Thom)
I have read Thom’s first three books and loved each one.
Here is my review of “Tainted Waters.”
Thom’s book was like one of my Nana’s triple layered chocolate cakes, impossible to walk away from without licking the plate. (No, I did not lick my Nook. However, this was a one-night read for me and that’s my highest compliment.) This truth-seeking journey had danger, betrayal, generational family ties and romance. It was captivating from the very first page and it caught my full attention. Thom mixed all the right ingredients to create a delicious recipe for an entertaining night under the covers. I wasn’t putting down Tainted Waters until I knew that Sam and Keegan were…oops! Can’t tell you! The plot’s seamless, twisting turns and the tension-building exploits kept me flipping the pages. The characters had depth and color, they were very easy to connect with and I’m looking forward to more books from Maggie Thom. People always say, “Don’t quit your day job”. Well it’s definitely not true in this case.

Hi! I’m Jeanne Marie, author of “Women Who Think Too Much, A No Help At all Handbook
What am I working on?
Well the list would be much shorter if I reported what I’m not working on!
I work a bit on my writing just about every day but with numerous interests and genres, I tend to not finish things.
I am currently playing with ideas for a sequel to my first book, “Women Who Think Too Much, A No Help At All Handbook,” an anti-self help book.
The sequel, “Codependent, After All” deals with how hard it is to shake off codependency even after all… all the years of therapy, all the money spent on self-help books and even after writing a book about it!
I also write children’s stories, poetry, prose, fiction, song lyrics and personal essays. I have a room full of boxes filled with journals and printed work from my “before the computer” days.
I am always trying to organize this paper mountain and I would love to get it all on the computer but it hasn’t happened yet. I think the reason is–it’s not fun; plus, I keep throwing new writing on top of the piles, just to confuse myself.
I also take pictures to go with my work, plus a million more pictures that I don’t need. But I might!
I have pictures and writing scattered throughout two computers, two laptops and a Nook pad. When my husband isn’t looking I even throw some pictures on his computer!
Sheesh, I think I need help!
I am also a Butterfly Whisperer and since butterflies follow me everywhere I go, I often drop whatever I am doing to take pictures of them. One even followed me into my son’s house when I was visiting!
My book, “Women Who Think Too Much” sat on my computer for almost twenty-years. I held on to it for so long that someone else used that title, but since the book had developed from a newsletter I wrote for two years (1997-1999) also called “Women Who Think Too Much,” I just bit the dust and held on tight to the title. You would think I learned a lesson on procrastination from this experience but no matter how hard I try, I never seem to have enough time. I have compromised by doing at least one thing a day that is creative and makes me happy.
I promised my mom that I would publish WWTTM one day and so I did. However, I wasn’t looking for fame or glory and to be honest, I haven’t tried to promote my book. I do have a dream to go along with my book. I would like to see a copy of WWTTM in every women’s shelter. at no cost to the shelters.
If you want to know more about why and how I write, the links below may help.
Thank you for asking me to play Maggie!

Contest WWTTM Jeanne Marie Cover

My book “Women who Think Too much” is available at:

I am nominating three bloggers whose work I love to follow the instructions below and join  me on the The World Wide Blog Tour!
You will need to post your page one week from yesterday which will be August 4. LOL Please RSVP me with a yes or no. Thank you!

Here is the information on the World Wide Blog Hop:

1. On your blog/website,  post a short intro/blurb of who nominated you with their url (me)

2.)Include a bit about yourself—your author info 

3. Include your writing process, which comes in the form of your answering 4 questions (listed below). (One paragraph each is all.)

  A.) What am I working on?

  B.) How does my work differ from others of its genre?

  C.) Why do I write what I do?

  D.) How does my writing process work?

 4. At the end of your post, add the urls of the 3 bloggers/authors who will continue the posting 7 days after your post!










Review by Jenn on Aug. 08, 2014 FIVE STARS
This book should be required reading as part of the high school curriculum. I made a couple of these “slips” early on, but thankfully avoided the worst of it thanks to some very strong and frank women in my life. However, I’ve had many friends who have had to learn the hard way–or never learned, and it’s heartbreaking to watch and so unnecessary.
Thank you, Jeanne, for the very straightforward advice and important reminder for all of us. Speaking of that, I think I need to go pad my “ILFU” fund…. ;-)

Review by Michael:
Just finished reading your book, Women Who Think Too Much.

Structurally, I found the book spot on. That’s a compliment to both your writing and your editors. The reading flowed very smoothly.

Content-wise, it was incredibly poignant.

It was heart wrenching to think you went through all that, and to think so many others live like that. I truly was not aware of the intricacies of what goes on behind closed doors in those types of relationships.

I confess that I know of no woman in my circle of friends who lives in those conditions today. I’m not sure if that’s a credit to my choice in friends or the strength and kindness of the people I know.

However, a long time ago (my senior year in high school), I dated a young lady fresh out of a bad relationship that, I can only guess (through rumors at the time), was a lot like what she described.

We dated for almost a year when she abruptly broke it off. After repeatedly asking her why, she reluctantly told me she was going back to her previous boyfriend. From what I knew of her old relationship with this guy, I knew it was very abusive.

I chanced upon her several months after our breakup. When I approached her, she was trying to conceal her black eye behind dark sunglasses. But she assured me she was doing fine.

Years later we met again. She had finally called it quits with him, but not before having two of his children.

So, in an indirect and very personal way, I was exposed to codependency and its abuse.

It truly breaks my heart to hear of situations like this, what you write about. It’s horrific. But I know there are men out there who behave like that. And the cost to women (and the children) is incalculable.

I will never understand how we humans can be so cruel to one another.

You have done a great job with this book. It’s a needed eye-opener, I guess not only just for women, but certainly (and especially) for us men as well.

Jeanne Marie —

You are an incredibly strong woman. I know the past was difficult, hard, unbearable and about twenty other adjectives, but that’s your past now. You’re in a much better place today.

Thank you for opening my eyes to this subject. And for inviting me into your life, if just from a spectator’s seat.

Ex Animo

Review From Anonymous Survivor: Jeanne, just finished your book. Wow. I lived that life for too many years. I’m still processing what it felt like to go back in time with the words you wrote. I have tried to track my tormentor/ex-husband for all these years and never found him. I have always  looked over my shoulder, afraid he would find me first. About a month ago I found his obituary. I never thought I could be relieved by a person’s death. I was, and am. I hope your book acts as a reality check and motivator for women in the thick of codependency. I think this is a much needed book. Should be in every women’s shelter across the country.
Thank you!

Review By S K Nicholls:
This month is National Domestic Violence Awareness month and I am reading a few books this month that focus on this troubling issue in different ways.  Today I am giving a book review on one of these.
Jeanne Marie taunts her book as “A No Help At All Handbook” and it is with this degree of sarcasm that she presents her case.  Domestic violence is a very serious issue affecting more people in America than the statistics can begin to show.  Jeanne Marie does an excellent job aiding women to identify themselves as being in a dysfunctional relationship and what to do (or not to do) about it with her “Twelve Slips”, a spoof off of the Twelve Steps programs.  While the small book with big ideas uses a rather comical approach to getting women to loosen up and look seriously at their own behaviors, as well as the behaviors of others, the highly qualified author also emphasizes the importance of recognizing where you may be going wrong and where you can go right.  I would highly recommend this book to anyone who even suspects that they might be in a dysfunctional relationship. Even if you are not, you will be entertained, and maybe learn something you can use to help another individual less fortunate.  It is both moving and inspirational.  It is a brief book, an easy read, and quite affordable as it is FREE right now at smashwords.  Download and read a copy today.  This is easily a five star book. I’ll make it real simple for you: Click right here:
S K Nicholls

Review by Ishaiya
Wonderful! Downloaded. Thank you,  Jeanne-Marie. I love your writing style, it’s beautifully poetic, thought inspiring and moving. You have a wonderful sense of humor too! :) I shall be sure to spread the word. Have a great week!

Review By Eleanor:
This book throws a funny bone at the heart of dysfunctional relationships and hits you right between the eyes.
Dark humor drives this soul-bearing and sobering narrative, but Jeanne Marie lets it fly without losing the gravity of her subject. Beneath the often laugh-out-loud comedy, Marie’s honesty and vulnerability entice you to notice jarringly familiar experiences that exist in your own life. Her words echo unforgettably, resonating into your everyday life, making it impossible to ignore the empowering mirror she has created for anyone who has ever been… is currently… or wants to be… in a relationship.
It amazes me that such a short and fun book is powerful enough to change your life. A must-read for everyone, particularly women and teens!!/read/blog/id/49671117/

Review By Maggie Thom:
“Wow. I don’t know where to even start with this but I can tell you that although it is a tough read, it is a must. Women Who Think Too Much is raw and will punch you in the solar plexus. When I started reading it, no I hadn’t read the blurb about it, I thought it was going to talk about how women are so hard on themselves. Which it did, sort of but it’s really one woman’s journey through co-dependency and abuse and her wish to wake up other women who might be living this kind of life or headed for it.
Jeanne Marie shares her journey through co-dependency and abuse but she does it in a unique way, she calls it the 12 slip step to co-dependency, where she uses dark humor for a dark subject. I think that if she’d just shared her journey, I would have felt awful for her but I don’t think I’d have looked at my life quite so closely. It’s interesting because she talks a lot about all the ways and things she did to avoid looking at her own life for a long time. I think it is brilliantly written. It’s only about sixty pages but it is by no means a quick read.
Try catching your breath after you’ve read it because you won’t while you’re reading it. It’s the elephant in the room that no one talks about, no one shares. I guarantee this book will wake you up like none other. Or at least it should.”
Maggie Thom’s Books!

Eleanor wrote:
“Those damn rose-colored glasses can create such a shady false light that we don’t even recognize the blindfold covering the eyes on the image staring back at us in the mirror. Your book, Women Who Think Too Much, shines a bright light of humor on serious issues. In all that laughter is the courage to put fear where it belongs. Instead of staying afraid to take off the rose-colored glasses, the impulse to keep them on becomes terrifying. (Your mom’s poem is evidence that her sense of humor was a guiding force to a way out of the dysfunctional cycle.)
I’ve read your book…more than once. Instead of congratulatory gratitude (which you absolutely deserve), Jeanne Marie, I give you a big, brave and hearty HEE HA HA YEEHAH! as I stomp my own pair of rose-colored glasses.”!/read/blog/id/49671117/!/read/blog/id/19456464/ Artist and Publisher of the Wildersoul Colouring Book wrote:
“I like the ‘how not to’ approach, which has a humorous angle, and yet it touches so very deeply.”

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She wrote: “Already downloaded the book and read it! It’s a great read, informative with humor. Highly recommend it and best part it’s only $1.99!
To Jeanne Marie, “I thought it was great. It took a topic that has been traditionally addressed as you are doing this wrong and this and this and you need to do this. The form in which you wrote your book gave most of the same information but in a humorous way that is less authoritarian but still has the insight.”

Review by: Joyce on April 25, 2013 : FIVE STAR
A must-read for women with Borderline Personality Disorder. Many of us have co-dependency issues. Maybe you can recognize yourself in this book and get the help you need. If you have no sense of your own identity, you need to find out who you are. Jeanne Marie helps you become aware, through her humor, what you’re lacking to become your own person, worthy of not needing someone who controls you.

Review by: Richard on Feb. 23, 2013 : FIVE STAR
I had bought this book for my fiancée, but we ended up reading it together. I really enjoyed it, I laughed out loud.. a lot. Winced in pain like when you hit your knee a few times, I mean I am a man and I am guilty of a lot of the same things in this book…like this one “Classic”!
“Why are the lights on in here? Do you want me to shut them off for you?
Why aren’t there any lights on in here? It’s so dark in here.”
All in all, I just wanted to say it was good to see how a man’s behavior can affect a woman, and after reading this book, I think I can try a little harder to be more considerate.

Review by: Dan on Feb. 23, 2013 FIVE STAR
Take your time when you read through this…then read it again.
A fan of cinema verite? Good thing. Hang on. Jeanne Marie compels you to look in to the mirror and ask yourself if you recognize this wounded gender.
This is not simply a woman’s cautionary tale.
Pull your son away from “Call of Duty”, put a porn blocker on his computer and force him to listen to her story.

Review by: Cherie on Feb 22, 2013 : FIVE STAR
A must read for women of all ages…timely and also timeless lessons for women from every walk of will touch you in ways that you never dreamed of and may even (hopefully) alter the course of your life..and’s NEVER too late!

Review by: Jerry on Feb. 21, 2013 : FIVE STAR
This book was excellent. It Really opens your eyes and makes you look at your own relationships. Helped me a lot..

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The first two pictures are normal filters, just a different angle which changed the lighting. The next four are posterize, solarize (2), and negative.

August Is Gone


I celebrate each August since writing this in 2012, by doing something I have never done and going someplace I have never been.

Originally posted on Women Who Think Too Much by Jeanne Marie:

September 2012
August Is Gone
I thought about it. Maybe I’ll take the month of August off and go to a place where I can be alone and I can think for myself. Make my own decisions. My birthday was last week and I turned fifty-nine. How did I get from twenty-seven to fifty-nine so quickly?
Why did I not realize that not making a decision and sleeping my time away so that I wouldn’t think, was a decision in itself?
The days blur together and the months sneak past, quick as the black racer snake that lives in my garden, slithering by my feet as fast as a bubble can burst.
My bubble has burst many times, but I just waited among the shadows for another bubble to shelter me. There is always another bubble I think and there will always be another August, even though I know that…

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beth and pam


room mates

best friends



was gone

way too early



was left behind

way too early



missing the other

on her birthday

in french you don’t really say, “i miss you.”

you say, “tu me manques,” which is closer to

“you are missing from me.”

i love that.

“you are missing from me.”

you are a part of me.

yes, that is it.

- author unknown

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yesterday copy

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I’ll learn,

How to live with regret,

To ignore how I feel,

And the pain that I let,


I’ll know,

What it is to be lost,

To run from the shelter,

No matter the cost,


I’ll live,

With the seeds I have sown,

Just a face in the crowd,

Or a name never known,


I’ll search,

For the rest of my life,

To taste a new freedom,

And savour the surprise,


I’ll forget,

What happened today,

And yesterday’s heartache,

Will be left by the way.

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Have you ever given much thought to the “I”

that other people see?


We can assess our own self-image by looking at the people around us.

We form relationships with people who treat us the way we believe we deserve to be treated.

People with healthy self-images demand to be respected by those close to them.

They treat themselves well, and so set an example to other people as to how they should be treated.

When I was struggling with this issue myself, I had such a bad self-image that I was willing to put up with all kinds of garbage and abuse from just about everybody.


In the back of my mind I was bullied with thoughts like, ” I don’t matter much.”, “It’s only me”, and “I have always been treated badly, perhaps, I deserve it somehow.”

I wondered constantly, “How long will I have to put up with…

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I love this poem! I always have fairies in my garden!

Originally posted on Pooky's Poems:

Do you know the best way

To find fairy folk?

If not, then I’ll tell you

Because I once spoke

To the Queen of the fairies

Who told me the way

To encourage her subjects

To come out to play.

The first thing she told me

Was always to bring

A freshly peeled orange,

And to wait by the swing.

Fairies love to smell oranges,

And cannot resist

Their citrussy perfume,

To them it’s pure bliss.

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Beautiful imagery…

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Up above the rainbows,
Right amongst the stars,
To the left of Jupiter,
And just alongside Mars,
Is where the magic happens,
Every time you make a wish.
If your wish is to be granted,
Then the fairies give a swish
And a swirl and a great flourish,
And the sky is painted blue
As the sweet and lovely fairies
Grant some wishes just for you.


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